I have known such people too, those who make everything better with a seeming ease. I am learning how to do it, too, and sometimes I can, but there is no recipe for me, you just know your way in and out of things, and when you don't, you learn on the fly. I think the main thing here is to keep your mind agile. (Sorry, I have used your entry to think aloud.)

It is sad that you have to face something so difficult on your own *hugs*